“The Advice Book”

I wanted to make a post about “The Advice Book” I made for my little sister for Christmas. It’s such a sweet & sentimental gift to give to someone you care about. I’m actually not that crafty when it comes to making presents like this, but this one was actually pretty easy. I bought a blank journal from Target and got to work. My opening page (which I cried writing) is pictured below to help give you an idea. I wrote lessons I have learned along the way about boys, self-confidence, money, friends and threw in some quotes that have stuck with me over the years.

Here are a few examples :

“Be content with the process & where you are. You may not be where you want to be one day, but you will get there. Don’t waste today wishing it was tomorrow because the time will pass you by.”

 

“When your heart hurts :
– Eat Ice Cream
– Go for a Drive
– Listen to Sad Songs
– Listen to Happy Songs
– Take a Bubble Bath
– Buy a new Outfit
– Play with a Puppy
– Take a Trip
– Have a Dance Party
– Re-Decorate
– Watch Me before You to remind you that your life isn’t THAT bad.
– Buy yourself flowers
– Spend time at the Gym
– Kiss a cute boy
– Cry with a friend”

 

“If it won’t matter to you in 1 year, let it go.”

 

“LOVE is not a reason to tolerate DISRESPECT.”

 

“Happiness is just a way of looking at life.”

 

“Growing up is a lot different than you think it is going to be. Don’t set unrealistically high expectations. Take things for what they are and just go with the flow. Life is so good & worth all the hard times you will go through.”

 

“You’re NOT a snack if everybody has a bite…. you’re a FREE sample!”

 

“Negativity in all forms will kill your happiness before anything else. Get rid of negative people & negative thoughts.”

 

“Credit cards will get you in trouble. PROCEED WITH CAUTION.”

 

“People can’t read your mind, you have to learn how to communicate your feelings in a nice way. AND it will be different with every boy you date or every family member/friend you have.”

 

“Assumptions make an (ASS) out of yo(U) & (ME). *if you’re confused it spells assume.”

 

“DON’T :
– Push away the people who care about you.
– Stop learning
– Rely on others for your own happiness
– Do anything that doesn’t make you happy
– Beg for anyone’s attention
– Stop until you’re proud”

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Xx, Kennah

 

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My Struggle with Anxiety

How ironic is it that writing this post gives me anxiety. My struggle with anxiety is something I’ve never talked about or shared before. Those who are extremely close to me (parents and a few friends) are really the only ones who know about my social anxiety. I hope some of you are able to relate to me and my story, if not lets talk a little bit about what social anxiety is. Social anxiety is a common chronic mental health condition in which social interactions cause irrational anxiety. It can be genetic or caused by your environment. I think when we hear the term mental health we sort of freak out and think there’s something wrong with them and that person is crazy, but that is not at all the case. I promise I’m a normal person and most of the people who do struggle with anxiety are.

Background:

Both my parents and siblings have struggled with anxiety in the past and still do. Some have been medicated and that’s worked for them, but my mom didn’t want me to be (because it had caused even more issues for her than it did good) and I was against being reliant on something when I knew I was strong enough to overcome (I also just don’t like taking pills even ibuprofen in general). This isn’t the case for all people and every person has a different mental capacity but for me I definitely thought it was possible. I also didn’t have full-on panic attacks like some.

The first episode:

Looking back there is one specific story that comes to mind while I was riding the bus to school in kindergarten (yes I can actually remember exactly how I felt). My mom had just bought me a new water bottle that was extremely hard to open/close. I opened it to take a drink and soon realized I wasn’t strong enough to close it again. (This story sounds so silly now but it was terrifying to this shy little girl.) I started to panic because on a bumpy bus ride how was I supposed to not spill water all over myself? I held the lid closed and continued to try to close it while my anxiety levels started to rise to the point where I felt physically sick. Eventually I decided to ask the bus driver to close the bottle for me and even she struggled to get it to closed (thanks mom). After I had gotten off the bus to go to school, my best friend wasn’t feeling good either so we called her mom and she came and picked us both up from school.

After that point I don’t remember having anxiety again until I was in 5th grade. My best friend (the one from the first story who I grew up with) moved to Chicago. I had other friends at school who I even played with outside of school, but she was this place of comfort for me. She was always there and her leaving sort of set off this trigger for me. I couldn’t go to the last day of school because I felt physically ill. All summer I struggled with going to church and out to restaurants with my family (they all give me crap for that to this day). I became so worried about getting sick somewhere that I was stuck (i.e. church or school because I couldn’t drive at this point) that my mind would get so worked up over it I would get physically ill. I remember thinking back this summer and how scared I was to think about having to go to Jr. High and even High School one day. It was absolutely inconceivable to me that I would have to do those things and I was sure I would die before that happened but look at me now!

My mom took me to many doctors visits to have x-rays, blood work, and tons of tests done because she didn’t know what it was at first. Starting that next year of school my mom had to follow the bus to school and sit outside of my class for the first 30 minutes of the day and then I would be fine. This lasted for about 2 weeks and I felt comfortable with my surroundings, but it came back again at the end of the year. My mom made me listen to meditations in the mornings before school and I would start to pace back and forth as time drew closer and closer to leave. We also worked on breathing techniques which I still use to this day. Eventually her and the doctor decided to put me on a stomach acid reducer (basically tums to help with the placebo effect) which did work for me.

Finally moving up to junior high I was fine the first day of school but the 2 weeks after that were super hard for me. I threw up everyday before school. Something about change has always been a big trigger for me. New places, flying, or having to eat out in a restaurant basically I became a mess of a person. After I got acclimated to the year and my classes I was fine, but every school year it seemed to come back. 9th grade was the first year I didn’t get anxiety because we were the big sharks of the school, but it was back again my sophomore year of high school. Just like all the years before I used my breathing techniques and faked it until I made it. Someone once said to me “it’s just one day, you can make it because you’ve lived through so many” and this has stuck with me. Since that year I really haven’t had anxiety but maybe 2-3 times.

My next struggle (and continuous struggle) is flying. I don’t know that I’ll ever get truly used to this because there are times when I have been totally fine flying and others where I’m confident I’ll be fine and then I’m not. One thing I have noticed is dramamine will calm my nerves and almost dull that feeling so I don’t get anxious. When flying without it if I think even for one second that I might get sick, it’s over. When flying from Salt Lake City to Charlotte last year on a red eye about 45 minutes to landing I started getting anxiety. Talking to people helps me so I woke up my boyfriend at that time and he watched a movie and talked with me and it was fine. We made it thru the airport to our next gate and we even got jamba juice. Sitting there waiting again for the plane to Punta Cana I had time to think about getting sick and boom, I was throwing up in the bathroom at the airport while everyone was boarding. We were the last 2 to board the plane (which gave him anxiety) and needless to say we both threw up on the plane and then passed out, it was a super fun experience let me tell ya.

I think the most important thing to keep in mind is not to let these fear and anxieties conquer us. Don’t stop doing the things you love to do because your anxiety controls you. I love to travel and I will continue to do so regardless of being trapped in a tiny plane in the sky packed with strangers. There will be days when it does win, but keep fighting. Making it through a day of school without anxiety gave me so much power and confidence that it truly helped me to completely get over it. Conquering fears will empower you. Having a good support system will also help you SO MUCH. Find someone to talk to about it, it is so healing to share and talk and ask questions because we’re not alone in this struggle. When I was going thru this at the time I hated my mom. I just wanted her to let me stay in bed and not have to leave, but what would that have taught me? To give up? To let my fears win? I am so thankful to have my mom because without her I would not be where I am today. I have gained so much confidence I could go anywhere new and talk to pretty much anyone now given I might analyze every word I said afterward but that’s a story for a different time.

If you’re still reading this THANK YOU! It means so much to me that you took the time to read my story and I’d love to hear yours!

Xx, Kennah

To the girl who loves more..

This post is a little different from my typical posts about make-up or fashion and I hope that’s okay. I felt inspired to write this post dedicated to girls out there who feel just like me. The girls who always feel like they love more. I can’t tell you that I have found the guy who was worth the wait and heartbreak, but I can tell you he is out there.

To the girl who is still with him:

You’re worth more than this. You deserve better. You might not see it now, but you will one day. I’ve been in that place where I accepted less than I deserved. I always knew I wasn’t getting what I wanted from my relationship, but people have a way of making you feel crazy. Like you’re asking for too much. Respect, love, even assurance are all important things. Everyone has a different love language. No one deserves to be with someone who makes you question your worth or what you mean to them. The right guy will constantly be reminding you. He will not put himself in a place where he could possibly lose you because he can’t bear the thought of living without you. You are strong enough to leave and it will be worth waiting for the right one. I promise you are worth it and you CAN find it. You deserve to be happy.

To the girl in the dating scene:

The dating scene can be one of the most frustrating things. People will waste your time and play games while you are looking for something more, something that’s real and will last. You always put everything into everyone else and that’s what makes you so special. Do not forget that. No matter how people make you feel it doesn’t make you weak, it makes you strong. You have this incredible ability to love and feel. The right person is going to see you for exactly who you are. They will see the value of a good heart. When you find someone who wants to try, don’t hold back or hold things against them because of your past. Give them everything you’ve got because you only have one life and one chance. This love you’re looking for will find you and it will be too good to let someone who didn’t see your value spoil it for you.

To the girl who isn’t ready to date yet:

Until you find something that is worth your time focus on yourself. Put that energy you put into others back into yourself. When the one you’ve long been waiting for comes, you have to be ready. Knowing yourself first is very important because you can’t love someone else if you don’t truly love who you are. A wise woman once told me in order to be loved you must first be lovable. Find that girl. Love that girl. Prepare yourself to be a good girlfriend, wife, or mother. Whatever you want to be, you have to grow into that person. Read books, study things that interest you and most of all set goals for yourself. I have taken cooking classes, travelled to new places and spent hours at the gym. Discover new things about yourself. He will see you doing your thing and he will come.

Remember, what is meant for you will not pass you by. Look for the good if you are struggling, you will find it. Look for the bad and you will find it.

Xx, Kennah

Holiday Gift Guide

FOR THE BEAUTY GURU:

For the beauty lovin’ lady in your life. Surprise her with something as beautiful as she is.

  1. Anastasia Beverly Hills Modern Romance Eyeshadow Palette
  2. Laura Mercier Translucent Loose Setting Powder – Every single girl needs this.
  3. Anastasia Beverly Hills Sugar Glow Kit
  4. Boscia Luminizing Pink Charcoal Mask
  5. Cover FX Custom Enhancer Drops
  6. Jaclyn Hill X Morphe Eyeshadow Palette
  7. Clarisonic Mia 2 Holiday Set
  8. Mac Cosmetics Lipstick – Blankety is a color that looks good on literally everyone so there’s no need to worry if it will work or not or if she will like it. Everyone I have mentioned it to has tried it, loved it, and bought one of their own.
  9. Sigma Brush Cleaning Mat – I got this as a gift last year and I have used it so many times!!
  10. Mac Cosmetics Turquatic Perfume Set – This perfume is regularly $57 on its own so you get the rollerball basically free. I’m obsessed with this scent because it’s edgy and sweet, it is literally the only perfume I will use.
  11. Lush Cosmetics Deck The Halls Bath Bomb Gift Set
  12. Colourpop Cosmetics Sitting Pretty Set – They have so many amazing gift set options. Their stuff is extremely cheap normally, but in these sets it’s a serious steal!

 

FOR THE FASHIONISTA:

The girl dressed to the nines for any occasion. Shock her with a gift she will actually use.

 

  1. FREEBIRD Joey Booties I fell in love with these the moment I saw them in the store.
  2. Plaid Cardigan Sweater Just bought this in a size L because I loved how long it was.
  3. KanCan Mid-Rise Skinny Stretch Jeans Tried them on and made my mom buy them for me for my Birthday! So excited to get my hands on these babies.
  4. Metro Reflective Beanie  I love how slim this hat fits, so sleek and cute.
  5. Automatic Leather Booties
  6. Flying Monkey Mid-Rise Skinny Stretch Jean My favorite pair of black jeans.

  7. Weslan Tie Front Top
  8. Wendall Wide Leg Pant I need this comfy set.
  9. Infinity Black Belt Buying this for myself.
  10. Frankie Fur Coat Can’t get enough of this color & this coat.
  11. Sweater with Volume Sleeves
  12. Steve Madden Gabbie Thigh High Boots Super similar to the ones I wear all the time.
  13. Tie Cuff Bardot Sweater
  14. City Winds Fur Trim Puffer Coat This length keeps you so warm.
  15. Tularose Ruffle Cold Sleeve Sweater
  16. Rhinestone Choker Necklace Perfect for a glitzy girl. Getting this for my 21st birthday.

 

FOR THE FITNESS FANATIC:

For the lil mama who likes to get fit. Show her you appreciate the hard work she puts in.

  1. Adidas Full-Zip Hoodie – This cute hoodie is on my list this year too!
  2. No Show Socks – I can’t live without these babies.
  3. Lululemon Reveal 7/8 Tight – Lululemon is the best legging company ever. I don’t care that it’s expensive these pants make your booty look amazing and they’re so comfy. I usually buy the Align II pant because they’re “like naked” pants, but these pants are so adorable and they’re the 7/8 length that I love
  4. Nike Roshe Two Sneaker – I have a few pairs of Roshe’s and I love them!
  5. Invisibobble Hair Tye – Doesn’t leave a crimp or damage hair!
  6. Free People Run Hoodie
  7. Reebok Training Hayasu Sneakers – Also on my list.
  8. Metallic Zip-Up
  9. S’well Water Bottle
  10. Active Open Should Top
  11. Adidas 24/7 Sneaker – Really you can’t go wrong with any adidas shoe. NMD’s, Tubulars they’re all so cute.
  12. Lululemon Everywhere Duffel
  13. Xtend BCAA’s – Strawberry Kiwi is my favorite flavor by far, but they have tons of yummy flavors.
  14. Blender Bottle
  15. Responsible Down Vest
  16. Beats X Wireless Earbuds by Dr. Dre

 

FOR HIM:

Something for everyone on your list. A special guy, your dad, brother or friend! Remind him we couldn’t live without them.

  1. Apple AirPods
  2. Calvin Klein Boxers Fun tip : I always buy them from Nordstrom Rack because they’re way cheaper than anywhere else. Ain’t gotta be rich to be a playa.
  3. Adidas NMD C2 These may be in the men’s section but they’re on my list too.
  4. Beard Wrangler Mini Crate I LOVE this website. First of all, the gifts come inside a crate that the men would them have to break open to get their gift. (how fun!!) Also they have tons of different options for the guy in your life. My lash ladies at Lash Effect told me about this! (They also do gift cards inside of a cement block).
  5. Chrono Black Link MVMT Watch Tons of cute options if you don’t love this one & they’re really decently priced watches.
  6. Lightweight Down Puffer Jacket Comes in black and is on sale NOW!
  7. Montblanc Cologne One of my favorites.
  8. LVFT Assassin Hoodie Seriously mad I have no one to buy this for, I’m obsessed!
  9. Lululemon Pace Breaker Short I’ve had so many guys tell me how much they love these shorts.
  10. Alpha Fit Men’s Clarisonic Easy enough even a guy can do it.
  11. Holiday Alpine Jogger Pajamas
  12. Harry’s Winston Set Every guy I know loves Harry’s after they try it and never go back to dollar shave club.
  13. Dazi Fall Escape Tie Best size tie in my opinion.
  14. Mickey Mouse Tee
  15. Adidas Originals Classic Camp Backpack Love the size of this one.
  16. Adidas NMD R1 I would already have these shoes if I could find them in my size.
  17. Cleveland Cavaliers Hoodie
  18. Pro45 Blender Bottle

 

Hopefully this helps give you some ideas for your Christmas shopping!

XX, Kennah

10 Cute Books You Need in Your Life

  1. Little Book Of Life Hacks

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2. How to Live Like A Lady

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4. Read This If You Want to Be Famous

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5. Recipes Every College Student Should Know

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6. Adult-ish: Record Your Highs and Lows on the Road to the Real World

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7. Eat Pretty, Live Well

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8. Womanskills

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9. Start Where You Are

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10. Almost Adulting 

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Xx, Kennah

 

New School Year Essentials

I’m sorry if this post gives you PTSD like it does with me, but soften the blow a little bit and buy yourself a few supplies to get excited about it!

1. Tons of cute Note Pads

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2. Velvet Pencils

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3. Charging Key Chain

This made the list for obvious reasons. Moms calls are pretty important.

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4. Good Reusable Water Bottle

With all the go go go you have to stay hydrated!

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5. Planner

Staying organized is the only way to handle so much at once. A planner helps me a ton to make sure I never forget an appointment or an event. It also helps to get a visual on how much time you have before you have a test or paper due!

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6. Gel Pens

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7. Cute Packpack that will MAKE IT THROUGH THE YEAR!

Because we’ve all had that backpack that falls apart halfway through the year and we have to stick it out and make the best of the second half.

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8. Quality Headphones

If you’re running around on campus and you want to avoid having to talk to people headphones are a must. KIDDING! But seriously when you’re in a noisy setting trying to study or unable to hear these are great and they’re wireless!

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9. Pencil Pouch

To keep all the essentials together.

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10. On The Go Coffee Cup

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Good luck with your new school year! Remember that C’s get degrees, KIDDING again! Maybe.

Xx, Kennah

 

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Easy Everyday Healthy Swaps

This post is all about the easy everyday products you use that can be swapped for a healthier option without any sacrifices on taste!

  1. Swap regular milk for Almond Milk. I love the vanilla flavor and they make sweetened or unsweetened depending on how daring you are! I use it in my pancakes, cereal, and mix it in with my eggs.
  2. Protein Pancake Mix. Kodiak cakes are delicious and good for you! (and they’re local to Utah, woot woot represent!) We use it in my house to make waffles, pancakes, and even lightly bread our chicken (to die for!!). There are tons of other recipes on their website that you can find for things like biscuits, muffins, and even pizza!
  3. Greek yogurt is so yummy (not just with fresh fruit). It can be used to substitute for mayo in dips like ranch!
  4. Swap out white rice for brown rice, or if you’re feeling like trying something a little out of your comfort level quinoa. Both are a yummy healthier alternative.
  5. Natural peanut butter. It’s a split second decision in the grocery store, but the taste is no different!
  6. This swap tastes different, but is still yummy and makes you feel better when eating something not so good. Lettuce for hamburger buns! Don’t miss out on the yummy summer BBQ goods. There are ways to get the best of both worlds!
  7. Coconut oil has so many uses and one of those is in cooking! It’s a good swap out for fatty foods like olive oil.
  8. Frozen yogurt is one of my favorite treats. Ice cream is high in fat, sugar, and calories. Frozen yogurt is light and doesn’t leave you feeling guilty. (Yasso bars are my fav).
  9. Pasta is everyones favorite and you can still eat it while being healthy. Wheat pasta is a good option that doesn’t change the texture at all. Zoodles are another option (zucchini noodles).
  10. If you haven’t already trade in that white bread for whole wheat!

Whenever I feel like grabbing a crappy snacking food I think about what kind of nutritional value it has. Is it going to leave me feeling empty and hungry again in an hour. Instead of a bag of chips grab some veggies. Eating right is a lifestyle change and it can seem overwhelming with information but you just have to take it one step at a time. You got this!

Xx, Kennah